So You Want Another Chance To Save Your Relationship?

A break up can be painful especially when it isn’t your decision to end things. You probably feel that you deserve another chance or that issues can still be resolved without having to part ways. As you look back on the incidents leading to the breakup, the only thing you want more right now is to “get my boyfriend back.”

Tears and heartache can make you desperate to bring things back to the way they were. But crying in front of him, begging and non stop calling or texting your ex boyfriend will only make things worse for you as men find these annoying. Besides, you don’t want pity to be his only reason for taking you back. Even if he reluctantly slides back into the relationship out of guilt, he’ll resent you for being so needy and won’t make any effort to work things out.

So you may ask, “How then can I get my boyfriend back?”

Give him space

If you want him back, you need to get as far away as possible from him. Oftentimes, men pull away not because they want to end ties completely, but to get some breathing space, especially after a big fight.

Bestselling author Dr. John Gray of “Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus” describes men as being like rubber bands. They get very close to women and then pull away. Instead of going after them, it’s best to leave them alone until they feel the need to get close again.

Make positive changes

View this period as a time-out to reflect on his issues and consider fixing some of them. Resist the urge to call or see him and focus your attention on things like your job, friends or family. Go to the gym regularly. Exercise will help you get the body you’ve always wanted while releasing endorphins to help you feel good.

After spending some time apart, your ex boyfriend will start to miss you and may initiate communication by calling to ask how you are or for advice.

Timing and your tone of voice when speaking to him are important. Don’t jump into things right away even when you miss him badly. Be the one to end conversations. He’ll find more reasons to call you back.

Ease yourself back into being friends to show him the changes you’ve made without being obvious. By not acting like an eager woman whose only goal is “to get my boyfriend back”, you’ll earn his love and respect and hopefully things can be sweeter in your relationship the second time around.